Am I obsessing too much, a bigot, insecure, or all of the above?

Yes, yes, and yes. And do you realize that one woman, lets take the white girl, cannot represent her entire race in bed! That's ridiculous and morally wrong. What if I said, "Yeah I know this white guy from Yahoo who is an obsessive, insecure bigot and well, can you blame him really? He's a WHITE guy..." Please let your groups help you! Cheers for joining them :) I don't want to be mean! But consider peoples' feelings for goodness sake.